I thought I would take the time and do something different and dedicate this post to my Grandmother who just transitioned in mid July. I don’t want this to be a sad post, but I thought that it would be the type of post that would be more like a remedy.
Lately, a lot of my relatives have been transitioning over to the other side. And yes, it has hit home hard quite a few times, but when my grandmother past, that really hit me.
When I first heard the news I took it quite well. I went on my usual walk while listening to my iPod, but that second day on the way to work, that’s when it really hit me. I thought, the strong woman that gave me a lot of love and compassion whenever I talk to her over the phone and visited her each summer in Mississippi is now on the other side with all the ancestors that already passed on.
So what I like to do in this post is focus more on my grandmother, my beliefs as far as “death”, my experiences with others who have transitioned, and how I cope with it. Hopefully this would be helpful for those of you who have “lost” loved ones.
“People do not die for us immediately, but remain bathed in a sort of aura of life which bears no relation to true immortality but through which they continue to occupy our thoughts in the same way as when they were alive. It is as though they were traveling abroad.” ~ Marcel Proust
I found out a long time ago that there’s always life. But I really didn’t come to this realization until my grandmother transitioned over. I like using the word “Transition” because I true believe thats what we all do. We transition into this world from another world or dimension and we transition out of this physical world after so many years.
I can remember as a kid in the 1980s I indirectly started my journey in studying metaphysics through watching one of my favorite cartoons called “The Transformers”. These were robots who were able to transform themselves into vehicles. But the unique thing about them was that each one had a soul like human beings.
After my cartoon phase as a kid, I started to listen to hip hop. Specifically what was known, and still known, as conscious hip hop.
Within conscious hip hop I learned more about who we are as human beings. We are spiritual beings, or ‘gods’ as they put it, having a human experience. As a matter of fact, those that were really deep into hip hop called each other gods.
Back then I wasn’t too keen on calling people ‘gods’, up until I asked a preacher about it when I went off to college. He pointed out a verse in the Bible which validated this for me and I went on to not just believing but having a better understanding of who we are living in this world.
If you’re interested, the verse he pointed out was John 10:34 in the New Testament. I will let you be the judge of what Jesus was trying to get across on this.
Metaphysics and My Experiences Of Those That Transitioned Over
As of lately, besides blogging, I’ve been doing some research on Metaphysics off and on.
Why?
This may be hard to believe for many, but I keep finding myself being sensitive to the other world and unseen energy. Hopefully this doesn’t scare you off, but just want to come as transparent and real with you since we’re on this subject.
There has been a couple of times where I felt people and animals transition over to the other side.
The first time I felt this was when my first German Shepherd was put to sleep. The best way i can describe it was that it felt like a burst of his unique energy hitting me which made me aware of his passing.
The second time I felt this is when my great aunt passed away when i was in college. And what’s ironic was that I happened to know when she transitioned over before anyone told me that she did.
This feeling of people and animals transitioning over happen too me quite a few other times after these experiences.
So for me I had to do some more digging which I actually started back doing when I was introduced to Abraham Hicks some 3 years ago.
At first I thought it was weird for an entity to be talking through someone else, but some of the things that was taught made sense which helped me to connect the dots and overlook this “weirdness”.
But metaphysics is still a mystery to me. I don’t think that I will fully understand it in this lifetime but I feel that I can start the journey of demystifying it by unveiling one layer at a time, especially since the passing of my grandmother.
But so far I’m enjoying this journey and I’m starting to feel more connected.
And from learning more about the metaphysical I do feel that the world of today, the paradigm that’s promoted, is a bit too physical which is the reason why there is so much mental and emotional problems here.
There needs to be some type of balance and I do believe learning about this subject is a great start for healing.
Getting To Know My Grandmother 
My Grandmother was born and raised in Northeast Mississippi, and as a kid I known her to be this real loving and compassionate person towards her children, grandchildren.
But don’t take her kindness for weakness because she was one to let you know what’s on her mind. Especially if you’re trying to get over on her. Grandma could be a tough cookie.
I also known for her to take the role of a grandfather since my grandfather died some 20 years before I was born. She taught me how to fish and make home made ice cream.
At the same time she taught me the meaning of hard work. From mowing yards to picking black eyed pies out in the country, she made sure I learn how to earn my way in the world.
We actually traveled to a few places like going to visit some relatives in St. Louis, going to the Worlds Fair in New Orleans, and also we all went to Carrollton, Alabama to hear about the ghost story and to see the image of the man that was hung back in 1877. The image was put on a window during a thunderstorm right before they hung him. Each time they changed the window, the image would come back.. Creepy huh?
I can remember her being so giving to all of us and would help just about anyone that really needs it. Hence the words “really need it”… Like I said before, do not take advantage of her 😉
She was very encouraging. Especially when it came to my goals. When everyone didn’t have faith in me or didn’t support me, she was the one who had my back.
My grandmother did maid services for a living. Sometimes she would bring me with her to the homes she would clean which were very nice, huge homes to me.
I can definitely say that I’m proud of my grandmother for some of her accomplishments. One, she went to the bahamas with her church and had a great time. Two, she went from staying in the projects to buying her first home 30 years ago. Three, although times were tough for her, she made the best of it and didn’t show her frustrations and stress to me growing up.
Engaging in Balance After My Grandmother’s Transitioning
One thing I noticed about my grandmother the last time I saw her was that she was tired. Her energy was draining, and I had to come to the realization that her time was short although I didn’t want to.
I tried to stay what seems to be “positive”, but at the same time being positive could also mean her transitioning over so she doesn’t have to go through anymore suffering.
I was going back and forth of fearing that she may transition over, not wanting her to transition over, hoping that she will come out of all this, but yet didn’t want to feel selfish because of her illness.
But it came to pass in Mid July when I got home from work. I got the call that I was hoping I wouldn’t get from my mother who was already in Mississippi. She told me that my grandmother had died and at first there were no feelings. I got my iPod and went for a walk like nothing happened.
Then that second day and the rest of the weekend it hit me. My grandmother had really transitioned over to be with the ancestors. I called my mom the second day to talk about grandma and she told me that grandma was calling for her own mother and older sister as she laid sick in bed.
From that I got the feeling that they were there to help her transitioned over to where they were in the afterlife. This calmed me down and balanced me out a little bit knowing that she was ok.
I got to Mississippi that following week for the funeral. Ironically, on the day of the funeral, I became very balanced with the whole thing. The gospel music during the services really helped me out and now I like to share some tips that may help you if you’re going through the same thing.
Listening To Good Music
They say music calms the savage beast, but in my case it calmed down my nerves.
I’ve read somewhere that in order to communicate with God, you communicate with them through a certain frequency or vibration.
I’ve seen this done through sound. From the buddhist monks of Tibet to the sweet Gospel music of the baptist churches in the South.
There’s a level of sound vibration that connects to your Spirit and this is probably what is mean by the old saying about music.
This vibration really balances you out. At least for me it did. In this since my mind and emotions didn’t go in different direction, but stayed settled in it’s place.
Reflecting On Great Memories
Me, my grandmother, and rest of the family had some great memories.
I looked through old photographs, and although I got a bit emotional, I eventually changed my focus to the great times we all had when she was physically here in this world.
There’s nothing like reflecting on the time she was here. Yes I’m going to miss those physical hugs she use to give me, but I figure she still lives on within me and the rest of us in the family through memories as long as all of us that knew her are here in this world.
In this sense, we tend to last longer through those that knew us once we transition over.
Focus On The Character and Spirit Of The Person
I can honestly say that we came to understand each other much more the last time I saw her.
How?
She saw how wise I’ve became and I reminded her of her own wisdom which she passed down to me whether it was directly or indirectly.
Lately I’ve noticed a lot of herself in me, but it does make sense since she’s my blood. I’m more giving now than when I was younger and I focus more on just feeling her presence and spirit since that’s the quintessence of any person.
So many people judge a person based on how they physically look whether by race, nationality, ethnic group etc.. and forget about the person themselves.
I feel that if we focus on people for who they really are more so instead of the classification that’s put upon all of us, we would be more balance, and this definitely has given me a more positive outlook on death and transition.
Quiet Your Mind To Feel The Love and Compassion
I can’t forgot the love and compassion she had for me and the rest of the family.
This is what definitely lives forever and what everyone wants.
These two forces lives forever since it’s within our nature and is passed down from one generation to the next as long as we are here.
I think of each time I use to visit her from California on how much of these two forces she had and it’s these are the two things I look forward to every summer.
Now it’s up to me to pass this along to whomever needs it because I know living in this world can be quite tough at times. It definitely helps you as well whenever you give someone who’s in need of it.
Feel For The Oneness You’ll Always Have With Them 
Not to put my beliefs on you, but I do feel that we are all of the same Divinity and we have this divinity in each one of us.
I recognized this when I saw her for Christmas and News Years.
I felt that we had this unique connection of oneness which was different and stronger than the connection she had with my mother (her daughter) although they talk on the phone every week.
I was always her Pride and Joy, and she could recognize my voice even if I tried to disguise it sometimes when I called her. I couldn’t fool my grandma, but the oneness showed how strong of a connection we had.
And this is what I have to maintain with others. I feel I have to find that divinity within others and reflect it with my own which brings out the best of them.
My Advice When Dealing With People And Death
Death can be a very hard, emotional and mental challenge for all of us. It can definitely affect us in a negative way for the rest of our lives.
So what to do about it?
My advice is to find balance within other people, and to not focus so much on the physical. Look for that divinity and dig for the person that they really are.
You’ll find yourself in other people whether they’re in this physical world or they’ve already transitioned over.
There’s a saying that opposites attract which holds true, but I also believe there’s always some commonality within each of us. One old cliche is that “we want to treat others the same way we want to be treated” which is proof of this.
One other thing I like to do is apologize for not staying consistent with putting out blog posts every week.
Although we all want to build successful businesses through leveraging blogs and other strategies, sometimes life hits us with unanticipated surprises, and this post is just another side of my own transparency.
I know that some of you who read this have experienced this or are currently going through this. I just wanted to share this with you not just to get some support, but also to show that I understand your pain and I also support you as well.
Now I Like To Here From You
How do you deal with loved ones that pass on? Is it hard for you to deal with this? Are you going through a lot of pain although they transitioned a long time ago? Have you ever been to bereavement groups? Do you eventually become balanced?
Has this post helped you? What would you add? What are your beliefs?
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Hello Sherman,
I am very sorry to hear of your Grandmother’s transitioning.
As expected she’s certainly not forgotten, as this post goes to show. We are finding out more about her and how much value she added to the lives around her, even though she’s no longer physically here. That’s obviously how you will continue to share what she taught you with more people, even many years from today.
And I think that’s the beauty of living a life of value. People who live such lives are never really gone, they only transition, as you rightly explained.
As you said about your Grandmother, she gave you a lot of love and compassion whenever you talked to her over the phone and visited her. It’s such love and compassion that was meant in a quote I read a while ago:
“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.”
How very true. No one can heal your heartache but the love and compassion of your Grandmother will remain with you forever!
Reading about her life and the amazing things she achieved, despite being a maid, is really really inspiring. Many people would use that as excuses not to reach out and achieve but not her – even going from staying in the projects to buying her first home 30 years ago. Super super inspiring!
I read the following poem a while ago and want to share it with you:
MISS ME, BUT LET ME GO
When I come to the end of the road,
and the sun has set for me.
I want no rites in a gloom-filled room.
Why cry for a soul set free?
Miss me a little – but not too long,
And not with your head bowed low.
Remember the love that was once shared.
Miss me, but let me go.
For this journey we all must take, and each must go alone.
It’s all part of the master’s plan, a step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick of heart, go to the friends we know.
Bear your sorrow in good deeds. Miss me, but let me go.
…By Unknown
And yes, this post certainly helped me. I have to thank you for inspiring and uplifting me (and hopefully others) with the wonderful story of love, compassion and hard-work of your Grandmother’s well lived life!
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Hey Kingsley,
You know what?
That poem you put here is exactly how I felt and still feeling. Wow, you must know me better than I know myself LOL
But yes it’s hard for a lot of people to lose a loved one physically. It sure was on me that whole weekend, but I started to focus on her happiness and the fact that she’s with the loved ones she knew that already passed on.
I can be selfish for a while. But it’s a good selfishness because it shows how much she meant to me. At the same time I feel I have to be empathetic towards her since she’s not in pain anymore and again, she’s with her loved ones that transitioned.
Now I must take this life journey. I will take her spirit and the person she was with me while on my own journey!
I’m glad that you stopped by Kingsley! Thanks for your kind words, the quote and the poem! You take care and have a great week!
Sherman Smith recently posted…Physically Gone But Will Always Be Here
Hello Sherman,
Sad to hear about your grand mother’s transitioning!
You have given a great tribute to her by posting an article on your blog, writing about how she meant to you during her life span, and even now when she is no more.
It’s hard when someone whom you loved the most passes away, but this is the truth we have to accept. We all are mortal, and we all have to die.
The important thing is to do something that people remember you with love. Just like you are remembering your Grandma, because she gave you lots of love and compassion when she was with you.
So just remember the lovely memories, and she will be happy wherever she is now.
Loved the post, Sherman. Touchy one!
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Hey Atish,
Thanks for your kind words Atish!
She meant a great deal to me but I tried to get away from using past tense when talking about her. She has always been with me and she will always be with me for the rest of my life.
I believe that we’re all immortal and that we come to this physical world for a short period of time. Do our bidding, and go back to where we came leaving the communication open for our loved ones who are still physically here.
Those memories of here are great ones, whether good or bad. They are a part of who I am and I will take her character and spirit wherever I go.
Thanks for your kind words Atish! She is definitely happy now!
Take Care!
Sherman Smith recently posted…Physically Gone But Will Always Be Here
Hi Sherman,
Again, I’d like to express my condolences. Dealing with a loss, especially with someone close to you, is not easy.
It sounds like you’re grandmother was a wonderful woman and left quite an impression on you.
I’ve had to deal with the death of people in my immediate family and it was not easy. There was a lot of crying and even now I don’t think I’m completely over it. I’ve never gone to breavement groups, I guess cause I don’t want to pick at the scab. I just think about making them proud.
~Lea
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Hey Lea,
It can surely be tough at first. For me the fact that I have studied metaphysics off an on and learn how to connect with the person more so than their physical vessel helped me out a lot.
Yes my grandmother was a wonderful woman and left a big impression on me, but I do know that she will always be there for me and the rest of the family.
For some, it takes a long time to get over the transitioning of a loved one. But if you ever want to talk, I will be all ears. It’ll help us both out 🙂
Thanks for stopping by and your kind words! Have a great week!
Sherman Smith recently posted…Physically Gone But Will Always Be Here
Hi Sherman,
I’m so sorry to hear about your grandmother. Losing a loved one is never easy and I know that words at times don’t bring us comfort either. So just know that my thoughts and prayers are with you as you learn to live life without her physically here.
I’ve never felt anyone pass over but I have been able to speak to spirits. It’s really weird how it all came about but the first time it happened I spoke to my Dad and saw Blake, my Cocker Spaniel. Now my Dad had been gone probably 9 years at this time and my dog passed away two years later. Just knowing they were together brought me comfort although I pretty much knew they were.
I think we all grieve differently. I think it also may have to do with the connection we’ve had or maybe who that person was to us. I know I can’t truly tell anyone how to grieve but I’m glad that you’ve shared what has worked for you. Perhaps your advice is exactly what someone is needing right now.
Again, I’m so sorry for your loss and I just wish you the best moving forward. I know these times may be difficult but we always have our great memories right!
Take care my friend.
~Adrienne
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Hey Adrienne,
Yes losing a loved one is never that easy, and for some words don’t bring comfort either. But I will have to learn how to go through my life without her physically her like she’s done with her own loved ones with that had passed on while she was physically here.
I never knew you were able to be to spirits. But this goes to show how close you were to your dad your Cocker Spaniel Blake. And I know how comforting it feels that they are both together as I know my grandmother is with her loved ones.
Yes we all grieve differently and none of us can tell anyone how to grieve. We all do it in our own way and that’s most comfortable for us. I’m hoping that what I shared will help someone else who’s going through the same thing.
Thanks for your kind words Adrienne and by the fact that I’ve been studying the metaphysical off and on, I will find it easier to move forward. Especially with the fact that I have some great memories of her!
Have a good one Adrienne! Take Care!
Sherman Smith recently posted…Physically Gone But Will Always Be Here
Hi Sherman,My condolences to you on the passing of your grandma. The loss of a loved one through death is something that is very painful and not many know how to deal with it. From reading this post you seem to have handled it well in spite of the pain and grief of the loss and it was so nice of you to write this article in her honor and as a tribute.
My most recent experience with death in my family was the loss of my eldest sister one day after Mother’s Day 2014. The pain was excruciating. I had not seen her for a while and never made it in time to her bedside before she transitioned. I recall writing a post as well on how to deal with the loss of a loved one. I totally agree with all your tips on how to cope with the grieving process. They are very helpful. Thanks for sharing your story. Have a blessed day.
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Hey Yvonne,
When we first lose a loved one it definitely isn’t easy. When I first heard of it, I handled it pretty good, but the next day and the weekend wasn’t that great. But I started to force myself to focus more on the person who she was in her physical body and that fact she’s with the loved one she knew that already had passed on.
I’m sorry to hear of your oldest sister’s passing after Mother’s Day. I’m sure the pain was excruciating, but one thing is for sure is that the person she was, the memories of her, and the spirit will always live on with you despite the fact you wasn’t there by her bedside when she transitioned. I’m sure she understood why you weren’t at her bedside and this will not stop her from always loving you.
Thanks for your kind words Yvonne! Have a great week!
Sherman Smith recently posted…Physically Gone But Will Always Be Here
Hi Sherman,
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your grandmother. My grandmother passed in 1995 and I will never forget it. It was the hardest thing I had to go through. I took it so bad that I didn’t go to the funeral but then I was left without closure.
When I was little my parents and grandmothers would tell me when we passed on we went to Heaven Jesus and our family is there to guide us. That there are streets of gold and no one is suffering. And that the whole day is spent singing our praises to Jesus. It just sounds wonderful to me.
Our grandmother’s sound a lot alike. Mine was a sweetheart but she spoke her mind and shot from the hip. There was no telling what she would come up with or say, lol. But I loved that spunkiness :).
I have to agree with you about the music. I was taught that about music too – by my grandmother. Besides, the Bible does say to praise Him in song. I love listening to gospel music, it really does make my soul dance. My kids call it “getting my Jesus on” because I have it blasting during the day. 🙂
It’s always good to reflect on memories. I think when we do their spirit is there with us loving the fact that they are not forgotten. I love sharing stories with my kids about my grandmother. She was something else.
Thank you for sharing this with us. My thought and prayers are with you and your family.
Cori
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Hey Corina,
Thanks for your kind words.
I don’t take it too much as a loss, but a way to get better connected with her. We tend to be so connected to the physical in our culture, that we forget the person.
But I can definitely see that now you are even much more connected to the person your Grandmother was and still is even after her transitioning. She will definitely always be with you and that you, yourself carry her ways and her character.
Music definitely helps out a lot. It helps to balance your emotions and direct them into a peaceful position. And yes, gospel music does help make your soul dance! I can see you getting your Jesus on blasting it during the day 🙂
But yes it’s great to reflect on the memories and I have to agree that whenever we do this, their spirit is there loving the fact that they’re still on our mind.
Thanks for stopping by and again for your kind words! Take care and have a great week Corina!
Sherman Smith recently posted…Physically Gone But Will Always Be Here
Hi Sherman,
All my condolences to you first of all.
Wow, Sherman, I love that you are using the word “transitioning” instead of dying. In the western part of the world we are people who understand death the least, as they do much better than us in other parts like in Asia and Africa.
They understand it better because they are closer to the forces of the Universe than we are.
Dying it’s sad for the living ones, because no matter what, we miss the ones we’ve lost, but we must find comfort knowing that they are in different place, in a better place.
Now, my dear, I didn’t know that you had wonderful psychic abilities, and if you ask me I would advise you to develop such gift of yours.
When my furry baby (my cat) passed just a year ago at the end of this month, she had decided to go just 15 minutes before the vet was due to put her to sleep.
It was amazing how both her and me knew it was the day, but she decided to die in her own term in my arm. 2 weeks before that, my dear friend Donna Merrill had told me that Sophie and I had a very strong spiritual bond, so that didn’t surprised me.
Right after her death, to be able to cope more with her passing I was willing to listen to anyone who had some type of psychic gift, and what’s amazing is that just minutes before she passed I asked her to let me know that she was still with me in spirit, and few days later as I posted a picture of her on facebook, one of my psychic friends send me a message saying that Sophie wanted to talk.
That friend ended up speaking to me on the phone for over an hour and wrote me a long letter of the things she was seeing and feeling about Sophie. So, I know for sure that she didn’t die, but as you said, she transitioned.
Thank you for sharing this heart felt journey, and we learned a lot we didn’t know about you.
You take care.
~Sylviane
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Hey Sylviane,
I can remember when you posted that Sophie transitioned over.
For some reason I knew there was something wrong but I couldn’t put my finger on it. You didn’t blog for a while so that gave me a clue.
But we all have a soul whether it’s animals, people and I just found out plants have a soul as well. Anything that’s considered to be “living” has this energy.
But yes, I’ve had these psychic abilities and my dad told me he has some psychic abilities too. But I do believe that it’s in all of us and that we have to open up our “third eye” which all of us have from what I’ve read.
I actually ordered some books just recently to educate myself and be more conscious about metaphysics. I do have to say that it’s quite interesting, and I can relate to a lot of things that is mentioned within the book I’m reading now.
I do believe the reason that we have a lot of emotional and mental problems here in our western world is that we’re not balance for one and we don’t connect with the spiritual world like we should. We’re more focus on the physical which definitely can put a toll on all of us.
But it’s great to see how well connected you were with Sophie. Although it was hard to see her transition over, you can still communicate with her whether it be through your psychic friends or yourself. I’ll let you know about the book I’m reading if you want.
Thanks for sharing Sylviane your experience with Sophie. Take Care and have a great week!
Sherman Smith recently posted…Physically Gone But Will Always Be Here
Hello Sherman,
Even though it’s a fact but it’s always hard to take. I thought it’s a blog post but after reading it fully I can understand your bond with granny.
Well!! It’s a definitely touchy tribute to you granny from you. Not only You got through it plus you provided tips to others for this situation.
But It’s very hard to control to see your loved ones go. So, it gives you and readers a positive vibe to get back to life and start working hard again.
I can remember famous Green Day song “Wake Me Up when September ends” and wanna pretend he/she will come back again.
Take care and stay happy
Pallab
Hey Pallab,
Yes it’s tough at first, but for me, the fact that I understood and accept that there is a metaphysical world helps me out a lot.
It shows me what I need to focus more on as far as people. We get so use to seeing people daily that we sometimes we actually forget about the person themselves if you know what I mean.
And the person they are lives on with us after their transition to the next world.
But yes, this post helped me and I hope that it helps my readers if they have gone through this or are currently going through this now.
Thanks for stopping by Pallab! Have a great week!
Sherman Smith recently posted…Physically Gone But Will Always Be Here
I really am sorry to hear of your loss Sherman.
Losing a loved one can be a really painful experience. I lost my grandfather two years back. It was an overwhelming feeling. Especially since his last days were painful. My grandfather was a really wonderful man. He dotted on all his grandchildren and made sure they never lacked.
I remember as a child that I loved going to visit grandpa. Then it was the biscuits or gifts he gave that enticed me. Then as I grew older, it was his wisdom. I often marveled at the things he achieved, and that spurred into believing that I can achieve great things too.
The day I heard of his transitioning, I was in shock. Even though we all knew it was coming, it was hard to accept. I can imagine the pain you are going through. Your grandmother sounds like a wonderful person. Do take heart, she is in a beautiful place.
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Hey Chioma,
Yes, I saw how tired my grandmother was when I last saw her for Christmas and New Years. On top of that I felt an energy in her house that wasn’t recognizable, and now I wonder if it was her own mother.
But now I know she’s with her mother and sister in a better place. No more pain, no more sorrow, but joy and happiness being with the people she loved that already transitioned over. As I write this, I become more clear and balance.
It sounds like your grandfather was a great man when he was physically here with you and your family. But now he is there for all of you spiritually and you will always carry him and his wisdom.
Thanks Chioma for your kind words! Have a great week ahead!
Sherman Smith recently posted…Physically Gone But Will Always Be Here
Hey Sherman smith,
I know how hurting is that frustrating situation when your loved one is passed away 🙁 I really feel sorry for it. Let us wish her rest in peace in the hands of the lord almighty at the paradise. life must to go on bro… take care.
Warm regards,
Issac paul
Hey Isaac,
I was quite hurtful at first, but now I know that she’s with me. I still feel for her presence but I believe that’s going to take a while.
Thanks for your kind words Isaac! Have a great week!
Sherman Smith recently posted…Physically Gone But Will Always Be Here
Hi Sherman,
I like the way you use the word “transition” instead of death. Your grandmother seemed to be a very wise woman with a loving heart and she lives on through yours.
Dealing with a loss of a loved one is difficult because we miss them. But the reality is they do go through a transition. Their soul lives on in God’s glory. And through us.
Although she will be missed here on earth, I do believe she will live on and still be there for you in spirit. I am a “sensitive” and know that spirits are there with us like angels.
To make sense of it all, parapsychology can balance your left brain to accept the feelings you get…like when your dog passed.
I can tell you this…it is real! But we need time to mourn and reflect back at the loss of our loved ones….then after all that can talk to them on “the other side”
I’m so sorry for your loss of your grandmother because she will be missed, but her spirit … her life and all she has taught you will live on my friend.
May God bless you and your family,
-Donna
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Hey Donna,
The soul never dies, it just transitions.
I’ve seen some documentaries that talk about energy and how it can never be destroyed. It only transitions. I put two and two together and made sense of it.
And yes, her energy will always live through me and through the rest of the family. It’s very hard for my mom, but I will definitely be there for her and give a hint that Grandma will always be with all of us.
I never knew about parapsychology and this will be something I will have to look up. I like looking up subjects that would seem abnormal to the rest of the world 😉
But yes, we do need time to mourn. It can be harmful to keep it all bottled up inside, but I do long the day to talk to her again on the “other side”.
Thanks for your kind words Donna! Me and the family will be ok, especially since we still physically have each other 🙂
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Sherman,
What a beautiful collection of wisdom about life and death.
Very awesome and brave of you to be vulnerable and honest.
Proud of you. 🙂
May your grandmother rest in peace.
– Brent
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Hey Brient,
Thanks for your words of kindness.
I was uneasy about it at first, but I felt it would be great for me and to show how I understand when someone else goes through the same thing. It shows how ‘ONE’ we are despite our physical and cultural differences.
Thanks for stopping by Brent and I hope you have a great week ahead!
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Hi Sherman,
So sorry for your loss. It can be hard, but I think you are on the right track. Most people will not ‘recognize’ the things you discussed here. And then there are people who are ‘sensitive’ to the ‘unseen’ spiritual world. Our connection to that world is there for all to see, feel and experience if we only open up our minds and our senses. I have always been one of those people. I used to be deathly afraid of this ability to sense, feel and hear outside of our realm and the people (that you called transitioned over) scared me. But as I learned and grew spiritually, I grew to understand it’s just another side.
Sensitivity to that other vibrational level where we can connect with our loved ones keeps us near them; connected. I appreciate that particularly as my own mother and father are presently not here as well as many others.
I think your thoughts and feelings you have about your grandmother will always hold her in your heart even when you may not be able to see her, she energy will always be with you and in your heart.
Again so sorry for your loss. I’ll say a prayer for you and your family and God bless.
Regards,
Barbara
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Hey Barbara,
I do have to say that although she’s not in this physically realm, spiritually she’s still with us. And I believe that if we’re more open to the other dimension then we will all feel that we haven’t lost our loved ones.
I definitely carry who she is and her teachings with me. Who she is will live forever with me, even whenever I transition over. So with that said the most important thing is to connect with the person and not the physical body as we knew of them.
Yes, at first it was a bit weird for me to feel those energies, but then again, the weird feeling didn’t stay too long because of the understanding I’ve had through the music I listened to, shows I’ve seen, and books I’ve been reading.
Thanks for stopping by Barbara and share your kind words! Have a great week!
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Hi Sherman
My condolences and I know it is not easy to bear the death of a loved one but I commend your courage for writing the post.
I see that your Grandmother made so much impact in your life with her wise counsel and love.
She will never be forgotten. I also was curious about your take on Metaphysics and you reveal so much mystery and there is still a lot to learn.
Thanks for sharing this post. Take Care and God bless you
Hey Ikechi,
Thanks for your kind words Ikechi and she has taught me a lot. If she only knew. But then again, I think she did and I carry her thoughts and ways with me.
Yes, metaphysics is an interesting topic. I just bought a book about opening up your pineal glad and it’s very much intriguing, especially with my own experiences and what I have learned so far.
Thanks for stopping by and sharing your kind words Ikechi! Have a great week!
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Hi Sherman,
My deepest condolences to you and your family. I know there are no words to comfort you right now but I still do want to thank you for this post and the wisdom you shared through the life of your grandmother.
You and your family will be in my prayers.
Luna
Hey Luna,
Thanks for your kind words. It was tough at first but I know she will always be with me and the rest of the family!
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I really am sorry to hear of your loss Sherman. Losing a loved one can be a really painful experience. I lost my grandfather two years back. It was an overwhelming feeling. Especially since his last days were painful. My grandfather was a really wonderful man. He dotted on all his grandchildren and made sure they never lacked. I remember as a child that I loved going to visit grandpa. Then it was the biscuits or gifts he gave that enticed me. Then as I grew older, it was his wisdom. I often marveled at the things he achieved, and that spurred into believing that I can achieve great things too. The day I heard of his transitioning, I was in shock. Even though we all knew it was coming, it was hard to accept. I can imagine the pain you are going through. Your grandmother sounds like a wonderful person. Do take heart, she is in a beautiful place.
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Hey Anthony,
Thanks for letting me know about your grandfather’s passing. It does help and I can imagine how much in shock you and your family were in, although you knew the day of his transitioning was coming.
The one thing that helped me was focusing on the person that she was after her transitioning over. And to be honest with you the funeral calmed me down which was a shock to me. It was the gospel music and the stories being told about her that really got me connected to who she really was. People saw what I saw and that was comforting.
Thanks for stopping by to share your kind words and about your grandfather. I hope you have a great weekend!
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Hi Sherman,
First off my condolences to you! I know how painful it is to lose someone you’re so close to and the range of feelings and emotions that come with it.
While I tend to be more theological in my approach, I agree with you completely. There is this stepping over to the other side where God is waiting for us.
I remember my wife’s great grandmother passing away and before she did she shared how she was seeing two angels coming for here. One one hand it was exciting and on another it was sad to see her go. But, we all knew she is in a wonderful place.
Thank you so much for sharing your story Sherman. I couldn’t agree more with you that it’s about the person. I heard Ben Carson share today that when was doing brain surgery it was a reminder to him that ones skin color or hair didn’t make the person. It was what was inside of them that made the person and on the inside we are all physically alike yet very different in spirit and unique in personality.
Thanks for the great reminder.
I respect and appreciate your article immensely and feel a sense of connectedness to you as a result.
You and your family will be in my prayers during this time of reflection and transition in your own right.
Have a great week!
~ Don Purdum
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Hey Don,
Thanks for your kind words and sharing your wife’s experience.
My experience with my grandmother was similar to your wife’s. When I saw her last for Christmas and New Years, I didn’t see angels but I did feel an energy there that was unfamiliar to me. I believe this energy is the same energy I felt in years past when I use to stay there.
So by the time I saw her for the last time, I believe this energy was preparing her to transition over. When I was there for the funeral 3 weeks ago, I didn’t feel the energy anymore.
But yes, we must focus on the person as they are in this world more so than what’s on the outside. That spirit, the character and the over all person is what’s counts during our lifetime here in this world. And this is what I truly connect with when my Grandmother was physically here with all of us.
Thanks for taking the time to stop by to give me your kind words and wisdom Don! I hope you have a great weekend coming up! Take Care!
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Hi Sherman,
Sorry to hear about your grandmothers passing, I have lost loved one’s too. The sadness of missing them is the hardest part to get through as it can linger until we can let go and know they are in a much better place.
I meditate so the tone you were talking about is real and anyone can find that sound. You just have to relax, no distractions, close your eyes and repeat a word over and over again make sure you breathe and let the thoughts flow, continue to say the word and listen for the tone to come through. It comes in slowly and once it comes in, you stop saying the word and meditate on the tone. Do this for at least 20 minutes to however much time you want to do it. I lay down when I meditate and sometimes for 2 hours. You can sit up in a comfortable chair. It really does work.
There is life after we pass on and yes the clues you have are real. Try to imagine your heart being wide open and filled with love. That is what they feel when they pass on. Our loved one’s go to a place full of only love. Yes when we pass we get to spend it with those loved one’s who have already passed.
Our problem is that we truly miss them. That will calm down over time.
God bless you Sherman and you have a wonderful day.
This too shall pass,
Linda
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Hey Linda,
Thanks for your kind words and wisdom. Yes at first I was numb, then it hit me, I week later I was at the funeral, then all of a sudden I was balanced again.
I had a feeling that my grandmother enjoyed her own funeral and the fact that we were all there. Now she’s in that next dimension with her loved ones that already passed. The love was already there for her homecoming and I can only imagine what she’s doing right about now.
Yes, I’ll take your advice on the meditation. I actually purchased a book on opening the pineal gland (third eye) which says the same thing about meditation. I’ve always been interested in this and I believe this is the time to really get into it.
Yes we truly miss their physical presence here, but I know she’s very happy now.
Thanks for stopping by to share your advice Linda! Have a good one!
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Hey Sherman,
So sorry to hear about your lost here.
I had lost a few family members last year, on my birthday and a few days after, and it was difficult. Deepest sympathies and condolences are with you and your family.
Thank you for sharing your story. Your grandma sounds like an incredible woman. Just know that she’s always with you and your family no matter what.
– Andrew
Hey Andrew,
I’m sorry to hear that Andrew. I’m sure that it was quite difficult for you. I remember when you wrote about your grandmother as well, and before I had lost some relatives in the months prior.
Thanks for your condolences! Me and the family appreciate it!
She was a great women and to her I was her “pride and joy”. She’s with the ancestors and doesn’t have to suffer any more, but I know we will all be together again!
Thanks Andrew for stopping by to share your kind words!
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