I thought I would take the time and do something different and dedicate this post to my Grandmother who just transitioned in mid July. I don’t want this to be a sad post, but I thought that it would be the type of post that would be more like a remedy.
Lately, a lot of my relatives have been transitioning over to the other side. And yes, it has hit home hard quite a few times, but when my grandmother past, that really hit me.
When I first heard the news I took it quite well. I went on my usual walk while listening to my iPod, but that second day on the way to work, that’s when it really hit me. I thought, the strong woman that gave me a lot of love and compassion whenever I talk to her over the phone and visited her each summer in Mississippi is now on the other side with all the ancestors that already passed on.
So what I like to do in this post is focus more on my grandmother, my beliefs as far as “death”, my experiences with others who have transitioned, and how I cope with it. Hopefully this would be helpful for those of you who have “lost” loved ones.
“People do not die for us immediately, but remain bathed in a sort of aura of life which bears no relation to true immortality but through which they continue to occupy our thoughts in the same way as when they were alive. It is as though they were traveling abroad.” ~ Marcel Proust
I found out a long time ago that there’s always life. But I really didn’t come to this realization until my grandmother transitioned over. I like using the word “Transition” because I true believe thats what we all do. We transition into this world from another world or dimension and we transition out of this physical world after so many years.
I can remember as a kid in the 1980s I indirectly started my journey in studying metaphysics through watching one of my favorite cartoons called “The Transformers”. These were robots who were able to transform themselves into vehicles. But the unique thing about them was that each one had a soul like human beings.
After my cartoon phase as a kid, I started to listen to hip hop. Specifically what was known, and still known, as conscious hip hop.
Within conscious hip hop I learned more about who we are as human beings. We are spiritual beings, or ‘gods’ as they put it, having a human experience. As a matter of fact, those that were really deep into hip hop called each other gods.
Back then I wasn’t too keen on calling people ‘gods’, up until I asked a preacher about it when I went off to college. He pointed out a verse in the Bible which validated this for me and I went on to not just believing but having a better understanding of who we are living in this world.
If you’re interested, the verse he pointed out was John 10:34 in the New Testament. I will let you be the judge of what Jesus was trying to get across on this.
Metaphysics and My Experiences Of Those That Transitioned Over
As of lately, besides blogging, I’ve been doing some research on Metaphysics off and on.
This may be hard to believe for many, but I keep finding myself being sensitive to the other world and unseen energy. Hopefully this doesn’t scare you off, but just want to come as transparent and real with you since we’re on this subject.
There has been a couple of times where I felt people and animals transition over to the other side.
The first time I felt this was when my first German Shepherd was put to sleep. The best way i can describe it was that it felt like a burst of his unique energy hitting me which made me aware of his passing.
The second time I felt this is when my great aunt passed away when i was in college. And what’s ironic was that I happened to know when she transitioned over before anyone told me that she did.
This feeling of people and animals transitioning over happen too me quite a few other times after these experiences.
So for me I had to do some more digging which I actually started back doing when I was introduced to Abraham Hicks some 3 years ago.
At first I thought it was weird for an entity to be talking through someone else, but some of the things that was taught made sense which helped me to connect the dots and overlook this “weirdness”.
But metaphysics is still a mystery to me. I don’t think that I will fully understand it in this lifetime but I feel that I can start the journey of demystifying it by unveiling one layer at a time, especially since the passing of my grandmother.
But so far I’m enjoying this journey and I’m starting to feel more connected.
And from learning more about the metaphysical I do feel that the world of today, the paradigm that’s promoted, is a bit too physical which is the reason why there is so much mental and emotional problems here.
There needs to be some type of balance and I do believe learning about this subject is a great start for healing.
My Grandmother was born and raised in Northeast Mississippi, and as a kid I known her to be this real loving and compassionate person towards her children, grandchildren.
But don’t take her kindness for weakness because she was one to let you know what’s on her mind. Especially if you’re trying to get over on her. Grandma could be a tough cookie.
I also known for her to take the role of a grandfather since my grandfather died some 20 years before I was born. She taught me how to fish and make home made ice cream.
At the same time she taught me the meaning of hard work. From mowing yards to picking black eyed pies out in the country, she made sure I learn how to earn my way in the world.
We actually traveled to a few places like going to visit some relatives in St. Louis, going to the Worlds Fair in New Orleans, and also we all went to Carrollton, Alabama to hear about the ghost story and to see the image of the man that was hung back in 1877. The image was put on a window during a thunderstorm right before they hung him. Each time they changed the window, the image would come back.. Creepy huh?
I can remember her being so giving to all of us and would help just about anyone that really needs it. Hence the words “really need it”… Like I said before, do not take advantage of her 😉
She was very encouraging. Especially when it came to my goals. When everyone didn’t have faith in me or didn’t support me, she was the one who had my back.
My grandmother did maid services for a living. Sometimes she would bring me with her to the homes she would clean which were very nice, huge homes to me.
I can definitely say that I’m proud of my grandmother for some of her accomplishments. One, she went to the bahamas with her church and had a great time. Two, she went from staying in the projects to buying her first home 30 years ago. Three, although times were tough for her, she made the best of it and didn’t show her frustrations and stress to me growing up.
One thing I noticed about my grandmother the last time I saw her was that she was tired. Her energy was draining, and I had to come to the realization that her time was short although I didn’t want to.
I tried to stay what seems to be “positive”, but at the same time being positive could also mean her transitioning over so she doesn’t have to go through anymore suffering.
I was going back and forth of fearing that she may transition over, not wanting her to transition over, hoping that she will come out of all this, but yet didn’t want to feel selfish because of her illness.
But it came to pass in Mid July when I got home from work. I got the call that I was hoping I wouldn’t get from my mother who was already in Mississippi. She told me that my grandmother had died and at first there were no feelings. I got my iPod and went for a walk like nothing happened.
Then that second day and the rest of the weekend it hit me. My grandmother had really transitioned over to be with the ancestors. I called my mom the second day to talk about grandma and she told me that grandma was calling for her own mother and older sister as she laid sick in bed.
From that I got the feeling that they were there to help her transitioned over to where they were in the afterlife. This calmed me down and balanced me out a little bit knowing that she was ok.
I got to Mississippi that following week for the funeral. Ironically, on the day of the funeral, I became very balanced with the whole thing. The gospel music during the services really helped me out and now I like to share some tips that may help you if you’re going through the same thing.
Listening To Good Music
They say music calms the savage beast, but in my case it calmed down my nerves.
I’ve read somewhere that in order to communicate with God, you communicate with them through a certain frequency or vibration.
I’ve seen this done through sound. From the buddhist monks of Tibet to the sweet Gospel music of the baptist churches in the South.
There’s a level of sound vibration that connects to your Spirit and this is probably what is mean by the old saying about music.
This vibration really balances you out. At least for me it did. In this since my mind and emotions didn’t go in different direction, but stayed settled in it’s place.
Reflecting On Great Memories
Me, my grandmother, and rest of the family had some great memories.
I looked through old photographs, and although I got a bit emotional, I eventually changed my focus to the great times we all had when she was physically here in this world.
There’s nothing like reflecting on the time she was here. Yes I’m going to miss those physical hugs she use to give me, but I figure she still lives on within me and the rest of us in the family through memories as long as all of us that knew her are here in this world.
In this sense, we tend to last longer through those that knew us once we transition over.
Focus On The Character and Spirit Of The Person
I can honestly say that we came to understand each other much more the last time I saw her.
She saw how wise I’ve became and I reminded her of her own wisdom which she passed down to me whether it was directly or indirectly.
Lately I’ve noticed a lot of herself in me, but it does make sense since she’s my blood. I’m more giving now than when I was younger and I focus more on just feeling her presence and spirit since that’s the quintessence of any person.
So many people judge a person based on how they physically look whether by race, nationality, ethnic group etc.. and forget about the person themselves.
I feel that if we focus on people for who they really are more so instead of the classification that’s put upon all of us, we would be more balance, and this definitely has given me a more positive outlook on death and transition.
Quiet Your Mind To Feel The Love and Compassion
I can’t forgot the love and compassion she had for me and the rest of the family.
This is what definitely lives forever and what everyone wants.
These two forces lives forever since it’s within our nature and is passed down from one generation to the next as long as we are here.
I think of each time I use to visit her from California on how much of these two forces she had and it’s these are the two things I look forward to every summer.
Now it’s up to me to pass this along to whomever needs it because I know living in this world can be quite tough at times. It definitely helps you as well whenever you give someone who’s in need of it.
Not to put my beliefs on you, but I do feel that we are all of the same Divinity and we have this divinity in each one of us.
I recognized this when I saw her for Christmas and News Years.
I felt that we had this unique connection of oneness which was different and stronger than the connection she had with my mother (her daughter) although they talk on the phone every week.
I was always her Pride and Joy, and she could recognize my voice even if I tried to disguise it sometimes when I called her. I couldn’t fool my grandma, but the oneness showed how strong of a connection we had.
And this is what I have to maintain with others. I feel I have to find that divinity within others and reflect it with my own which brings out the best of them.
My Advice When Dealing With People And Death
Death can be a very hard, emotional and mental challenge for all of us. It can definitely affect us in a negative way for the rest of our lives.
So what to do about it?
My advice is to find balance within other people, and to not focus so much on the physical. Look for that divinity and dig for the person that they really are.
You’ll find yourself in other people whether they’re in this physical world or they’ve already transitioned over.
There’s a saying that opposites attract which holds true, but I also believe there’s always some commonality within each of us. One old cliche is that “we want to treat others the same way we want to be treated” which is proof of this.
One other thing I like to do is apologize for not staying consistent with putting out blog posts every week.
Although we all want to build successful businesses through leveraging blogs and other strategies, sometimes life hits us with unanticipated surprises, and this post is just another side of my own transparency.
I know that some of you who read this have experienced this or are currently going through this. I just wanted to share this with you not just to get some support, but also to show that I understand your pain and I also support you as well.
Now I Like To Here From You
How do you deal with loved ones that pass on? Is it hard for you to deal with this? Are you going through a lot of pain although they transitioned a long time ago? Have you ever been to bereavement groups? Do you eventually become balanced?
Has this post helped you? What would you add? What are your beliefs?
I like to hear from you and I look forward to your comments. Please share them below.