Blame, The Enemy Of Success…

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“A strong, positive self-image is the best possible preparation for success in life.” ~ Dr Joyce Brothers

“Our self image, strongly held, essentially determines what we become”
~ Dr. Maxwell Maltz

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
~ Eleanor Roosevelt

How do you see yourself?

What do you think about yourself?

Can you envision yourself as a top six figure earner?

Do you see yourself who will always run into “bad luck” and never make their dreams come true?

What is hindering you to become successful? Is it from what someone said in the past? Are your peers saying negative things about what you’re doing?

The majority of people will always blame other’s for their lack of success in anything. But what happens when you’re always blaming others for you’re lack of anything?

You give them power over your life!

Sorry to say, but yes, it’s true!!

You are giving those people the responsibility over your life. What they say, goes! They are the one’s thats going to limit whatever you do despite all the options that you have.

Sounds like a life of tyranny, doesn’t it?

What do you do?

Look at them as you see yourself in that moment. We all are self conscience and have some type of self-esteem issues in certain areas in life.

As a matter of fact our low self-esteem can blind us from our potential and the plethora of opportunities that are out there.

Like the old saying goes “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”. In this case “The opportunities and success is in the eye of the beholder”. So it really doesn’t matter what other people say to bring you down. It’s really up to you and only you to persevere to success.

I came up with a couple of questions you may want to ask yourself and the other party who are “opinionated” about what you’re doing to become successful:

1. What are they doing to become successful?

2. Why aren’t they helping you to become successful instead of belittling your dreams?

3. Do they have a fear of you becoming a success?

4. Are their negative opinions of what your doing more important than your
dreams?

5. Why are you letting them bring you down to their level?

6. Why aren’t you looking for options instead of letting to limit your options?

7. Do they ever see the opportunities in bad situations?

8. Are they the type of people that only see the negative in everything?

9. How much do they know about what you’re doing?

10. How much do they care to know about what you’re doing?

By asking questions like these, you start to empower yourself again. They give you other options to look into as well as give you a more positive mental attitude, despite the fact that you’re not at the point of where you want to be in your life. What matters is to be able to see the opportunities in every bad situation whether it’s a set back or if it’s someone who is looking down at what you’re doing to become a success.

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  1. Erin Smith’s avatar

    Hey Sherman,

    That was a powerful post. I think that sometimes we do need to let the criticism go and not worry about it. It’s VERY hard though when it’s someone really close to you like your spouse. But those questions are very good to start asking yourself so you start to build up that self esteem again and realize that you are actually making your own success instead of doing the dead end 9-5 job. Thanks for sharing!

    ~Erin

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  2. Sherman Smith’s avatar

    Thanks Erin… Once I start catching myself blaming others, I start to ask myself these questions which are very helpful. Thanks for stopping by to comment!

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  3. Peter Fuller MBA’s avatar

    Hey Sherman

    Great post my friend.

    A long time a go I learned to stop blaming others for my circumstances.

    Our circumstances are a direct result of our actions, especially actions in the face of adversity.

    Thanks for the read Sherman

    Peter

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  4. Sherman Smith’s avatar

    Hey Peter,

    You’re absolutely right! You are in charge of your circumstances. Anything that we get into we should be prepared to take responsibility of the consequences. It’s all a part of our growth.

    Thanks for stopping by Peter!!

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  5. Kareem Williams’s avatar

    have to agree with Erin, this post is powerful bro. you are really changing the game man and I am super happy to see this go down

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  6. Sherman Smith’s avatar

    Thanks Kareem for stopping by and your comment! It goes back to what my philosophy teacher taught us in college. You may be quick to point the finger, but don’t forget you have 3 fingers pointing back at you.

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  7. Ilka Flood’s avatar

    Hi Sherman,

    Very enlightening post! At the end, the only person I am accountable to is myself. If I failed then there’s no one else to blame but me. Maybe I set my goals to high or maybe I did not try hard enough. But if I did the absolute best I could do, then that’s enough.

    I love what you said about the 3 fingers pointing back at you when you point the finger at someone else. So true!

    Have a great week!

    Ilka

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    1. admin’s avatar

      Hi Ilka,

      Once we start taking responsibility for ourselves then we have control over our lives and where we want to head towards. Thanks so much for stopping by and your comment! It’s much appreciated

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  8. Tristram Lodge’s avatar

    Hi Sherman,

    Great post and a subject that is really interesting. Most people live in a blame culture so it becomes part of life. I think it is easier for some to blame others instead of doing whats right for themselves.

    Tristram Lodge

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  9. admin’s avatar

    Hey Tristram.. yes, blame is the easy way out and you start to loose control of your life. Once you start taking responsibility then you start to empower yourself. Thanks for stopping by Tristam!

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  10. Mavis Nong’s avatar

    You nailed it, Sherman!

    Some people just like to blame something or someone when things which things don’t pan out as expected.

    These don’t take responsibility for their actions and are not accountable at all.

    When you have made blame a part of your life, then you’ll never succeed.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    All the best,
    Mavis Nong

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  11. Sherman Smith’s avatar

    You got that right Mavis! Thanks for stopping by to comment!

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  12. Oliver Tausend’s avatar

    Hi Sherman,

    a great take. The interesting thing is: A lot of people feel that they are powerless. Now wonder, they handed their power over to others by making them responsible and blaming them. Who has the responsibility, has the power. Who has the blame, has the power. Who has the “fault”, has the power.

    Thanks for sharing.

    Take care

    Oliver

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  13. admin’s avatar

    Hey Oliver,

    Thats the great insight Oliver. Who has the blame, has the power. Who has the “fault”, has the power. It may seem like you have the power when you point the finger, but you’re actually becoming powerless when you do. Thanks for stopping by to share your comment Oliver!

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